Happy Love Day! I know, I know. Mushy, Hallmark holiday. This year though, we took the opportunity to foster and celebrate non-romantic love with our boys. How did we do that? Well, easy! We bought our boys dolls. Now, before I get ahead of myself, let me explain.
There is a big (and AWESOME!) movement lately that is celebrating girls wanting to do “boy stuff”. Like play in the mud, like dinosaurs and want to be superheroes! Which, YAY! Unfortunately, the opposite isn’t true for boys. In some avenues, yes. For example, we have a kitchen set for the boys, who all love to cook and bake with me (you’re welcome future DILs!), that is grey and blue. It is totally neutral! And costumes for dress up are becoming more readily available in non-princess variety year round. BUT, we are still missing an entire skill set: caring for and nurturing another human. Baby dolls are still primarily a “girl” toy, and while you do see boys with dolls, they aren’t “boy” dolls (as evidenced by the above picture…). Which was why when I heard about Wonder Crew dolls, I was so excited! They come as a superhero, which is a slam dunk for my dudes, and you can buy other outfits too. Currently the most sought after one in my house is the construction outfit.
Last month for Bug’s birthday, J and I decided to bite the bullet, and get one for him. Let me tell you. HE LOVES IT. It’s his buddy. And they go on all kinds of adventures, and misadventures…but even more than that. He takes care of him. He changes his diapers, and washes them (gotta love that fluff butt lyfe)! He wants to bring him along when we go hiking, or to the store, and comforts and loves him when he’s “hurt” (i.e. when he gets thrown off the top of the playground…*eye roll*). My 4 year old ALL boy, rough and tumble kiddo, is naturally learning about empathy, and how to care for another human. All skills that will serve him well.
Once we saw the successes with Bug, and how badly Monster and Bam wanted a doll of their own, we looked for sales, and opportunities to give them one. Love Day seemed to be just that. I have big hopes for the effects these dolls will have on them. Monster is “the baby”, he likes to sit back and let others do for him. He is silly, and kind-hearted. Quiet and a bit of an introvert. Bam is our “middle child”. He is WILD, and crazy, and so brave and sweet. He has no fear, and jumps into everything feet first. We hope that “Baby Marco” will help Monster to embrace his independence, and to care for others. With Bam, we are hoping that “Baby Will” will help him to slow down, think of others, and help him learn some emotional regulation. And while they have only had Marco and Will for about 9 hours, they have made sure to: change their diapers, feed them lunch, lay them down for naps, and put band-aids on their owies. Bam even made sure to wrap Baby Will in a blanket when we left the house because it was cold and rainy this morning.
So, fellow mamas, and daddies too if you’re reading, this is my plea: embrace the nurturing side of your boys. Teach them to love others, care for others, and be kind humans. And if they are, remember they can be all those things, and still be muddy, rough-housing, crime-fighting superheroes too. I know mine sure are.